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According to the Oxford dictionary,

grace/ɡrās/: simple elegance or refinement of movement. courteous goodwill. do honor or credit to (someone or something) by one’s presence. Grace is a spiritual gift that involves love and mercy given to others even when we feel that they don’t deserve it.

If you know Grace, you’ll know what it is to really be loved by a good friend. Beauty and grace and a whole lotta brains. I seriously cannot speak any more highly of her than I already do. Her name perfectly fits her personality. Grace is probably the sweetest and kindest person I have ever met. Not only that, but she makes you feel like you’re the coolest and best person in the world. I was thrilled to have Grace come and stay with me because she just lights up a damn room when she walks in it. She comes off as shy and maybe a little quiet at first, but honestly, she is probably the funniest person I have ever met. She makes me want to make her laugh, just to see her smile.

Aside from that, Grace is not only one of the most beautiful people I know, but also the smartest. She leaves in a month to move to Hawaii where she is getting her PhD in Chemistry. Excuse me, what??? I wasn’t surprised when I heard the news. Extraordinary things happen to extraordinary people. And Grace is extraordinary. Seriously. I don’t know anyone like her. We met freshman year of college, lived in the same dorm and were in the same sorority. I can’t remember the exact moment we met, but it was in the first few days, when everyone was feeling self conscious, wondering if they made the right decision or if they were going to find friends. It wasn’t hard to fall into a friendship with her though. I remember countless times we’d sit in my car after chapter talking about life, boys, and insecurities. I loved growing closer to Grace, even though we were both so busy with our lives. I think our friendship is so unique because traditionally, we didn’t hang out together outside of our occasional meet ups, but damn, every time we would see each other, it was like seeing a sister. So, this past weekend, we had two years of the ups and downs to catch up on. So between car rides between the islands, we caught up on past relationships, ridiculous stories, and what life has like post college in academia while navigating our adult lives.

After I dropped from my sorority (that’s a whole other blog post), I had two friends left from it. Mary Elizabeth and Grace. I was blackballed, alienated, and cut out from people’s lives. I was entirely too busy to frankly give a damn, but it still does sting to not be wanted, after making a decision that was best for myself.

Grace was just truly a good solid friend to me. So, regardless of how long time has passed, how much or little we text or see each other, she’s got my back.

I had been looking forward to this weekend for a longgg time. Not only was it the first 4th of July I wasn’t working, it was time to see some friends I haven’t seen in a few months, but also the first time seeing my sweet Grace in two years! This weekend was so much fun. She came into town from Charlotte where she is working at her internship and stayed with me in Charleston for the holiday weekend. We had plans for a beach house with some people and my sweet gal friend Sky, who moved to DC a few months back! It was so exciting just being with my two best gal friends and meeting new buddies:)

It’s an understatement to say that it is very difficult to meet friends as an adult. I’m pretty outgoing but in the middle of a pandemic, working virtually, moving somewhere you don’t know anyone… how do you meet people??? As I have figured it out, usually through other people! So this weekend was going to filled with drinking, yummy food, excessive amounts of laughter, and honestly, having a good time. God knows I have needed it. I wanted to meet new friends, get closer with old ones, and just relax.

This weekend with Grace was a dream. We didn’t get home before 1am every night (wild for me, I know!) laughed till our bellies hurt, and indulged in good food and drinks till we were bloated in our bikinis. The weather turned out to be absolutely amazing, the weather turning from storms to straight sunshine for the weekend.

I’m so blessed to have gone what I have gone through, the friends I have made, the memories created. It’s bittersweet, knowing it will be awhile till we can be with each other again, but it’s not a goodbye, it’s a see you later, and I’m okay with that.

Today Mantra:

“I AM happy with my old friends.”

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